Thursday, May 24, 2007

permission

so i just got off the phone with a friend of mine who randomly called me.

and everytime i fall for it...

when will i learn that the only time she contacts me is when she wants tips on how she should be cheating on her husband.

today's topic: how to get around wearing the condom.

my response: when in doubt, wear one.

i guess he told her that he is clean because he gets checked once a month....now, i ask you, who gets std & aids checked once a month if they weren't worried about it? or their lifesyle warrants that (i'm thinking porn stars & hookers)....so i suggested: wear it.

now i'm not the most innocent gal, and i have been with a few married men in my time, but i'm actually against cheating....people who cheat are not in happy marriages and there is really no excuse not to leave your spouse if you are that unhappy.

happy people don't cheat. and of course, i'm leaving poly couple out of that statement because that is something entirely different.

so my friend wants me to support her "new" lifestyle which includes cheating....but as a true friend, i want her to be happy....and if she's not happy with her husband, then i think she needs to leave....

she does have a baby and security living in a really nice house, but what happens if she gets caught? she's already risking that....

maybe she wants that, i dunno.

i just have no idea why i'm the "go to girl" for that......maybe it's becuase i don't want to get married that she thinks i think life is a free for all....and it is, under the right conditions.

4 comments:

JaG said...

Just try to be honest with her.

wind walker said...

my honesty seems to annoy her....of course, i'm just the voice of reason!!!

CeeCi said...

Let's see...a "friend" who calls "randomly" for permission to have sex outside of her marriage. I'd have an extremely difficult time calling someone like that a friend. If she was comfortable with what she was doing, she never would have bothered you with it.

Okay, so much for the "friend."

Welcome back! It was such a wonderful surprise to see you linked in Bonnie's post today. I wondered if it might be you, so I popped on over to take a look-see!

I was sorry to read that Storm had to have another surgery.

I'll be adding you to the Garden links so I can come visit!

ciao bella~
CeeCi

Spankoe said...

Windwalker, it sounds like your friend is trying to justify something she already knows is wrong by asking for your approval. I couldn't give it to her if this was being asked of me. She's jeopardizing her family... she has a baby! If she gets aids and dies, who will raise her child? Certainly not her. Meybe that's what she wants...
Stand strong on the side of fidelity if for no one else but that poor little baby. I mean, it's one thing if you're in a poly relationship but entirely another if you're not!
Good luck with your blogging!